I almost didn't write this except for it seemed like it was going to bother me if I didn't.
I'm putting OdDmosis to sleep for a little while. The site as it is will remain up but there won't be any further updates for awhile. I'm at a spot in life where I've been reevaluating my relationship with the internet. For a long time I felt like this blog was outside of all of the other noise, but I haven't liked the work I've put here lately, and I don't feel like I get very much out of doing it right now. I don't know if at some point, I will return to maintaining this site, or if it's going to die out to make way for something new. For now, you can follow me on twitter @Kokadrille. If anything changes that's probably the first place to learn about it.
Thanks for reading.
I don’t really know how to start this, but boy howdy, I am terrified of succeeding, and I am running out of creative ways to fail.
Here’s the thing about failure; overcoming it is beautiful. Look at every break up song, every painting that conveys a struggle, every comedian pouring their heart into some tragically beautiful portrait of humanity, the depths of solitude and darkness they’ve been mired in and their dutiful trudge onward because, fuck knows why. Because we have to try.
In my life, I have failed a lot, and though I've never celebrated it, I have always felt like I came out a better person, and there's something kind of messed up about that. When we fail, we have a starting point, and the end seems tantalizingly easy yet somehow still noble: we're looking to get back to even ground. Sweet success is as easy as getting up before noon, or not killing ourselves.
I’m not trying to make light of the kind of rut that makes those little victories seem huge, by the way. I’ve been through times in my life where the monsters in my head controlled me. Being alive was painful even at its simplest, let alone trying to do something with my life. I’ve been so disillusioned with humanity, myself, my chosen life, that the great, deep ends, the failures, have seemed nearly inevitable and backing away from those melting edges wasn’t easy.
For the first time in awhile, I have pulled myself onto some higher ground, but I really suck at it. Moving from Denver helped me escape the cynicism I’d been trapped in. I’m in a relationship with someone who is both supportive and challenging, who is both adventurous and pragmatic, and who has encouraged me towards challenging mental patterns I have that are, well, unproductive. I'm learning how to talk to people here without the baggage I'd accumulated, which helps me know what are valid frustrations and what are creations of my mind. I've learned how to feel less helpless in the realm of social change.
It’s hard for me, in some respects, to know what parts of my mind are changeable and which ones aren’t. I don’t know what things fall under learned behaviors that I can weasel my way out of, and what things fall under the somewhat haze of, “This is You, Like it or Not.” I’ve hit a few limits, but I only found them because I pushed hard against them. I don't handle success very well, even if it's small. Whenever I do something good I immediately undercut it with some self criticism. I'm trying not to do that any more, but I feel very uncomfortable acting like I did something good.
One of the things I don’t like about being in this middle, where I don’t feel like I’m about to fall, is the vastly larger probability of being a hypocrite. I’m falling short of a lot of beliefs I hold if for no other reason than I’m not quite at the point where I know how to address them. I have my ideals, but I also have no idea how to respond to people who don’t hold them. I'd like to believe that I value my beliefs above all else, but I don't, and I don't always notice it when I fall short.
Case in point would be a weird rise in Facebook messages I’ve gotten from people I don’t really know. It’s not a huge number; there’s four people (and yes, they’re male) that have sent me unsolicited messages that range from “hi” multiple times to “hi sexy” once or twice. This seems to happen cyclically but I don't know what it's dependent on. I don't get any for a long time and then I'll have a small cluster. I haven’t responded to any of them.
The ideal me believes I should tell these dudes, who I’m “friends” with most likely only because they’ve had a picture of themselves with a microphone and have enough comic mutual friends who were as lazy at vetting as I am, that I am, to borrow a quote Tom Segura, “Friended Up”. It’s kind of a dick thing to say but it’s a reality for someone like me. I don’t have it in me to talk to a lot of people, and I don’t often respond to people on messenger unless it’s about shows, Especially if they call sexy, because it has implications that they want me to reciprocate on some physical or emotional level with them that I definitely won’t. It’s also been my experience that “sexy” is often just a sugar coating that melts off the word “cunt” when I say I don’t want to communicate. Such is life.
The ideal me believes that these guys are humans, and probably lonely, and loneliness in itself tends to lend itself to weird behavior, so I shouldn't be so callous about not wanting to be friends. Everyone is complicated. They could be lonely and wanting or genuine creeps who are just splooging out messages to every woman on their list in hopes that eventually some naive and socially ill equipped person takes them up on their messages. I really don't know.
The real me chooses not to respond because I don’t have any further dialogue than saying I don’t want to say anything, and as valid as I think it is to give people closure, or explain why what they’re doing could be seen as unwelcome, I don’t. I fall short of my ideals here. That’s put me in a weird position now that I’m struggling less emotionally; I have slightly more social capital and I have no fucking idea how to use it, because until now I've really been able to handle the bare minimum so I never had to consider anything else. (Social capital meaning the amount of interactions I can have in a day, which on a bad day is zero and on a really, really good day is whatever number is me being sociable at an open mic.)
It's odd because I've been trying for most of my life to replace money with some form of social currency, and I'm now realizing that ideal might be something I'm just not physically capable of, which is something to confront in another article. Failing I might not be, but I will always be flawed.
The way I see it, I can spread this new social capital at my current level, which would include talking to people who send me anonymous Facebook messages and expressing that I don’t like it, or I can attempt to use it to do more with comedy, meaning reaching out more and asking strangers in other cities to book me.
The latter one, logically, is the much better use of my time, but my mind also resists the idea that these aren’t equal because they require they same expenditure of energy. The latter also has a higher risk of both success and failure, whereas the former has a best case scenario of an emotionless “okay” response. In my socially and emotionally limited capacity, that little leap seems more appealing than doing something that would actually help me do comedy. I feel stuck between being who I think I should be ideally and how I think I'll move ahead in life and I don't like the compromise.
I think we do a lot of strange things because we’re afraid of success. One that I see a lot is through interpersonal drama, as Denver well knows on Facebook. If we’re frustrated that we can’t do well, or we’re afraid to try, we end up doing a whole bunch of strange maneuvers to make things harder on ourselves. We set ourselves up for failure because at least failure is tangible and the outlook is tangible. We don’t know what success looks like sometimes, even when it’s staring us in the face with a rose in its teeth.
I don’t really know what success looks like or how to do it. I think there is a wide and unappealing middle that most of us don’t want to admit we’re destined for. A lot of us will be the muffin top of comedy; we won’t sell ourselves so short that we hate what we do (hopefully) but we’ll get really comfortable with spreading out into things we wouldn’t have originally touched, simply so we don’t go hungry. We all want to be the voice of our generation and too often we find that our generation ages out of wanting someone to speak for them. All I know is that for the first time in my life, I’ve got a shot at the middle, as long as I stop shooting myself in the foot, and somehow that is more terrifying than the idea of sleeping at the bottom.
There once was a Babylonian King who kept hurting his feet on sharp rocks when he would walk through his kingdom. After a particularly bad incident that cut open his foot, he ordered that his entire kingdom be covered in fine linens. The king sought to carpet the world.
Realizing the potential of the task to bankrupt the kingdom and become a laughing stock everywhere else, one savvy advisor hastily pulled the king aside and suggested,
“Your Majesty, why don’t we start by carpeting your feet?”
And bingo bango, sandals were born.
I forgot where I first heard this story. Seems like something from an Alan Watts book.
I’ve thought about this parable a lot this year. On one hand, the volume of a lot of social issues has turned up, enough for those who claimed they weren’t problems to be shaken out of it, myself included.
On the other, the personal hurt involved with so much social unrest seems to cloud logical solutions. We have to hate everyone in order to punish some. I get it, social issues are held by societies and saying, “Okay sure not every single white person or man but that’s not really the point, is it, it’s the social programming that we have to dismantle that allows people from those groups to persist in violent or discriminatory behavior, and that's what makes this different than when we're saying you can't hate all muslims or black people” isn’t exactly the catchiest chant.
But you know, it still feels wrong.Maybe this is from my past that I can’t let go the idea that blanketing any group of people with assumptions, for whatever reason, is wrong.
Maybe not even wrong, just not useful, because it’s going to be harder to get (Group A) to get (Group B) on their side by abstracting the problems perpetrated by (Group B). Not everyone identifies themselves the way you see them.
In terms of these issues, it’s very hard for me to figure out the difference between carpeting the world and carpeting one’s feet. Not all the time, suggesting that racism is a demonstrable problem that you can’t deal with by saying “I have a friend who’s black” seems like a reasonably safe assumption.
When it comes to patriarchy, assault and feminism, I won’t lie to you. I have no fucking clue what goes where. I don’t like the “Men are scum” reactions but I’ll grant you it’s bullshit that women get more stringent punishments for saying that than men do fo saying “women are whores.” It’s discrimination, but it’s a weird battle to pick.
Who the fuck knows.
I know that when the Me Too Hashtag started, I was pretty cynical from all of it. I was pretty bitter from my experience of overzealous feminists in Denver and more jaded by the scope of the problem I saw by traveling across the US. Every place was different, shades of being socially inept were threaded together with latent or overt acts of sexism. Social media is not my favorite platform to take a stance, either. There’s a lot of huff, and puff, and boy am I brave enough to knock a house down.
But Me Too caused a lot of women to open up and I got to see that. I also got to see men realize that they had a part in it. Not just by being a generally decent person who doesn’t fuck over women, but recognizing that they could say, “Dude, you’re fucked up,” to a friend of theirs who systematically hurt women. There were a lot of conversations that I’d never seen happen before, and I was grateful for that. For a little while, we were centered together.
Then more people came forward about public figures, which caused arguments about moral panic, what happened if women were lying, what were the implications of acting like they weren’t, and more. We went back to abstracting one another into two groups, and each group more stubborn than ever about their views. Everything felt so calloused again. The cycle continued and everything felt even harder.
I don’t really know how to handle these kinds of situations. I’ve never been a political person before. I don’t think I can really say that about myself now, but I have to admit, it’s hard to feel like I’ll stay safe if I don’t reach out and stab something once in awhile. Net Neutrality got repealed and that was a huge loss that didn’t have the same kind of ire with it that I saw with feminism, though the dry, long term part of my brain knows how potentially difficult this will make campaigning, canvassing and social awareness in a few years.
All of this is just the setting. It’s not the story. Not for me. I almost didn’t make two articles this month because I’ve been busy/homeless/depressed/lucky/working on what I want. On a personal level, this year has felt as tumultuous as it’s seemed on the news. Maybe that’s why all the issues have seemed so big, I had no personal stability to anchor me to anything else.
I lived in a car for two months this year with Sweetboy. We slept in Walmart parking lots, in hot, muggy fields to the sound of what I can only assume was a lot of bug fucking, we crashed on a few couches and in a motel that noted refunds were not given if you only wanted the room for an hour. I have a lot of stories bound up in my brain right now, but I don’t have any time to tell them. I’ve pushed as hard as I could to do comedy and sometimes at night, when I can’t get myself to fall asleep, I feel consumed by the fear that I am wasting my time.
Now I’m at the end of the year, struggling to get this one last article in so I can meet my writing goal that I’d set up two years ago, when I first realized I was lost. I was so lost that I kept drawing different paths from the spot I was standing until any map I could have made was useless.
I finally pulled myself out of that tangled knot of many paths, and now I’m here, in a place completely blank. It’s fitting, given the New Years’ resolution season. I don’t have anything to fill this with yet. I’ve only just come out of the mess.
Normally I like to start a new year off with definitive goals. I don’t think I have them so neatly this time. At this point, I don’t know if I’ve carpeted my feet, the ground or just pulled the fabric over my head and I’m running around like a Pacman ghost, completely oblivious to any actual danger.
Christ, I really don’t know how to end it this time. I don’t think I have any great life lessons. I’m less sure of everything than I’ve ever been. I keep wanting to tap people on the shoulder and go, “Sorry, I’m new here. What the fuck is going on?”
I wouldn’t have gotten through the hard times in my life without the people I’ve had in it. It’s hard when sometimes you have to cut people out that you care about or let people in that you’re not sure if you do. The boundaries aren’t as simple as the one between the rocky ground and the soles of our feet.
Something something something positive note. Happy New year. Get drunk unless that means something awful for you. Thank you for reading this blog. It means a lot to me that you do.
I wish that something could still catch my attention without trying. I feel overwhelmed with advertising most of the time. Commercials, billboards, radio space, online ads, even litter are looking for just a sliver of mental real estate, and as a performer, I generate it too. I want attention. Everything is shiny and impressive, or trying to be.
Or worse, everything is worth panicking about. Feminism has taken a huge step forward as a movement, but something about it often still frustrates me on a personal level. Racism was once our outcry and we’ve shut up about it a little while we’re distracted by the tax bill or insert whatever atrocity will be relevant by the time this goes up. Net Neutrality being repealed was a huge loss, and as someone who runs this website (I've had OdDmosis since I was 15) this blows on a very personal level. It's going to make it extremely difficult for small entrepreneurs to compete (if I’d even call it that, try existing) against massive websites within the next few years if this isn't fixed. The outcome won't be felt immediately, but like most dangerous things, it's going to take little pieces and slowly. Think of the proverbial frog sitting in a pot of water, unaware that it will be boiled alive.
This slow increase in temperature includes everything from variety, competitive market space, privacy. It didn’t require a huge allocation of the federal budget to support and it wasn’t divisive against religions or ethics. This should have been a no brainer. The only way it came through is by deliberate disregard for the public and direct misrepresentation, among my favorites, the one metric used to determine Net Neutrality as dangerous or ineffective being that it interfered with ISPs ability to develop new infrastructure, a clai that's widely disputed.
Losing net neutrality means different things to different people. As someone who runs this website, ad free, supported exclusively by the few of you who drop by and read it, it basically means that I get to do that without having to worry about making a shit ton of money. My platform is small and I like it that way; you can still scroll through and check things out, and as long as a few people donate every year I can afford to keep doing it.
As someone whose day job currently involves working remotely online, and who uses the internet to book shows, meet other comedians and plan events, net neutrality means I may potentially have to pay for work. Is it going to equivocate to paying for a pay lot at an office or is it going to be a substantial part of my already pretty meager income? It’s critical to being competitive, because I can contact people hit up small production companies and festivals, visit performer’s websites and so on. I don’t have to click on a page and then go make a sandwich because these websites are too small or don’t pay an extra fee. I don’t have to worry someone with more money than me can get there faster.
More likely than anything else is the appearance of "data caps" as you may be familiar with your smart phone service. ISPs will dictate which sites will and won't be charged as part of your cap, which again, as someone who works independently, means that I'll likely have limits imposed on how long I am able to work without getting charged to do so.
As for mainstream media, alternative media and fact checking services, I don’t really know. I’m unsure what the sway will be in terms of what stories may receive coverage, what stories will potentially be harder to access, or more alarmingly, fact checking and comparing articles will become a great deal harder. If you were worried about mainstream media before, consider that the partnership between MSM channels and ISPs is often explicit, and they have grounds to throttle competition now.
Then there’s the fact, and to me maybe the most troubling one, that despite the overwhelming amount of protest for Net Neutrality’s repeal, the proof of fake support being posted to the FCC’s website, that all of these efforts, bipartisan in nature, were still voted down. Ajit Pai has stated intent that he was going to make sure it was repealed regardless of what public opinion was. Even if you opposed net neutrality, doesn’t that sound more like government overreach than regulation does, being actively ignored and in the interests of highest bidders?
For those of you who are worried about government control, invasion of privacy and what else, well, the government isn’t the only one interested in your sweet, juicy statistics. Your data could potentially be accessed in order for ISPs to determine what they should or shouldn’t charge internet companies more money for. Who's to say they won't sell that data to said companies who are trying to figure out whose access to lobby for?
It’s just one in the continual dominoes that have been falling. I remember last November I wrote about how we shouldn’t be freaking out that Trump won until he acted; all campaigning proved was that he sought to divide and conquer via public opinion. His presidency has robbed many of rights, caused potential global, environmental and economic damage, and has left me in the unfortunate position of trying to dial back the fear mongering of how fucked up all this seems without any real reason to.
I don’t watch dramatic TV shows or really messed up, graphic, frightening or sad movies any more because I can’t really differentiate them from reality any more. I know my head’s fucked up like that. I watch things that are animated or relatively light in nature because I can either extrapolate the absurd as something that isn’t my reality, or I can at least exist in a better perceived one. It’s just weird when the reality that is news seems like fucking spider demons spitting lava in your face.
Last November, I wrote about how we weren’t listening to the concerns of conservatives who ended up getting Trump elected, and I think that’s still true, although many seem more comfortable if not reluctant to change allegiances with the insane amount of scandal that’s rife in the GOP currently, I hope we realize that when we start listening to middle conservativism we can get somewhere. Putting racists, sexists and right wing talking heads on a pedestal to ridicule or disagree with is going to go nowhere. Extremists exists so that moderates have a limit they can know they don’t want to become, I think. When we look at the bleeding edges, we're more likely to let bullshit like this slide.
On an individual level, we will pick and choose which laws we want to follow. We will still discriminate, oppress, hate, love, embrace and accept according to the world and the place we believe we have in it. This is part of why I got so personally angry about Net Neutrality, as a single person, I don’t think I have the ability to choose to follow that law or not now..
I don’t think laws are for governing individual behavior, exactly. It’s to verify norms. Most of us are pretty sure that murder is wrong. Making it a law won’t stop a murderer, but it will make it harder for a murderer to develop and exchange the social currency necessary for them to obtain their weapons and their victims. We are seeing very blurry lines between what needs to be law and what needs to be upheld or thrown out in terms of social standards. Government doesn’t rule our lives, it rules what we as a majority consider acceptable, and I’ve seen nothing representative of that this past year.
This article isn't covering any of the steps that can and are being taken in some cases to fight the repeal before it gets any legs. More on that to come, but maybe look it up on your own, while you can.
I have been dumbfounded when it comes to the task of writing a new article lately. Things have been changing so quickly that I can barely process before one thing before something else happens. It's hard to react to something let alone develop an opinion on it, especially one that could lead to something proactive. No wonder people have been taking “Facebook Vacations.”
I’m becoming increasingly jealous of dolphins. Dolphins put half of their brain to sleep for about 45 minutes at a time. Their lives are primarily spent amusing themselves, although I guess we could argue that about ourselves as well. They just seem to enjoy it more, but then again it’s hard to see the look of existential dread on a marine mammal’s fixed toothy grin.
I’ve been sick, too, which should really stop taking me by surprise at this point. As long as sickness doesn’t bake into pregnancy, though, I think I’m more okay with it. It’s just an excuse to break out the ‘tussin.
In the news there is gun violence, sex crimes and pedophiles. I wonder if I was just naive and the world has always been this insane. Maybe we just have more access to it, like in the 1960s when you could see the war on television for the first time.
We can inhale the entire world in (now) 280 characters. I feel like I’m getting compassion fatigue just by turning my phone on. Compassion fatigue is a term you’ll hear in the volunteer world, nursing or other social services. I’ve heard it’s particularly bad if you work with animals, but that’s anecdotal. You begin to suffer such classy symptoms like hopelessness, increased response, decreased pleasure in daily activities, inability to focus and so, so much more!
Not surprisingly, compassion fatigue has been considered to be leaking into the everyday media consumer. There’s been #MeToo, complete with graphic and triggering recounts of abuse. There’s the slow, sick realization the GOP has had to come to terms with that the reigns of their party have been passed over to some openly fucked up people. Every day is a massacre.
By the time Louis CK got his name in the Twitterlight, I felt deadened. Not sad, disappointed, relieved or I don’t know. I don’t know what response to that you’re supposed to have. I think I’ve felt like I was supposed to have a response to it because this rumble is so old. In fact, I wrote a piece condemning the coverage of it when Gawker posted its original story. My point was largely against Jen Kirkman's podcast, who came forward and also backpedaled and remained pretty vague, which frustratingly diluted the ground feminists have been fighting for and means it’s harder to take it seriously.
Older me would like to agree with past me in theory, but older me also knows that in some ways, lies are a complicated friend of the truth. I should also point out that I wrote this before coming to terms with my own lies, ones that carried me until the truth was far enough away that I could admit it, but that’s a different story.
There’s even a More Perfect podcast (because of course I listen to shit like that) featuring some of the times where reality had to be tailored for social progress, or regress in an arguable antithesis. It’s worth listening to, if for no other reason than to acknowledge that lies, for better or worse, are just as much a pillar of social life as truth and justice. The truth might not be pleasant, morally sound or psychologically healthy.
And now I’m here, writing for what seems like the billionth time about my grappling with truth. I feel too empty to have rage. I wonder if this is compassion fatigue. It’s not like I feel helpless, I just feel like nothing helps, and I’m not even sure why I consider those two things separate.
Sweetboy and I have this line we use that has helped us avoid a lot of fights, “I have nothing for you.”
When one person wants more attention, feels like the other isn’t “happy,” or simply doesn’t match up to whatever demand, the other can explain their lackluster responses by saying, “I have nothing for you.”
It’s self contained and honest. I’ve found it very helpful because there is no room for interpretation and there's no blame attached. Whenever someone says that, it means that they need to take a moment, maybe 45 minutes to turn off half of their brain, and go into social sleep. It’s not personal. It’s not an “I don’t want to talk to you,” or “Of course I’m fine,” or anything else that would require further explanation. Person two doesn’t get to argue, because initiating more argument demands energy that person one has explicitly stated he/she doesn’t have.
That’s how I feel about current events right now. World, I have nothing for you. I am going to watch the leaves fall. I am going to get high on cough syrup and get over this fucking cold. I’m going to draw silly monsters, tell jokes and tell jokes that aren’t taking a big stance on the issues. A horse with broken legs can’t carry anybody up a hill.
That’s a lot of how it felt in Denver. There would be these great clouds of online arguments and drama. I even caught them from North Carolina, and as collateral damage my old show is cancelled. It’s going to take me a long time not to be pissed off about that, but it also made me realize something. I have nothing for them.
I am a grey wall when it comes to this kind of feuding. I didn’t care when I was there, and then I left, and while it followed me like wisps of fog somehow sneaking into the folds of clothing, I’ve stretched it out and shaken it off. Current events will never be shaken from the folds, though. That’s the world we live in, and it is an exhausting one, one that begs for half a brain just to maintain some semblance of peace.
I am very slow to react to things unless they are relentlessly painful or aimed directly at me. I don’t really know how I’m supposed to feel about the take down of powerful men who have let sexual assault be some sort of hobby. I know I’m supposed to be angry, and I guess I am, but I’m also satisfied that it’s being discussed openly. That the vagueness of sexual assault is becoming more concrete. I also dislike people conflating their own personal frustration and ire with current events as some sort of social media vigilantism that makes them look wholly stupid, arrogant or narcissistic. That’s what shouting looks like to grey walls. I am a grey wall that would like to be a dolphin.
I think it’s okay to be a glacier, a grey wall, but of course, I have been wrong before. I think it’s okay to move on or move slowly. I think it’s okay to see something tragic and shocking and shitty and acknowledge it without feeling. I hope so, anyways, because I’m out of feelings for now.
I am still working this out and it might come across incorrectly.
Every person who shared Me Too also has something else they'd rather you remember them for.
Every person who shared Me Too also woke up, went to work, went to school, pursued something that they are passionate about.
They want to be seen as a comedian, an artist, a musician, marathon runner, lawyer, doctor. They like movies, music, they have hobbies, favorite foods and day to day lives. What happened to them isn't their "story."
They are not telling you this because "it's their story."
Make no mistake, It is happened.
It's also painful and exhausting to repeat. Over and over. And we are asked to in order to make it stop. And to stop that for even one person, we will recount the worst moments of our life. But that's not our story.
It is important to understand that there is a lot of pain, and that you may be the direct cause of it in some cases and the indirect cause in others. If you are willing to admit that, thank you, this next part is for you. If not, go back and see how many people said Me Too. See how alarmingly frequently this impacts people you know.
We're not even close to the point where we can unpackage how that pain can sometimes make us be shitty people, and we cause damage while we reconcile damage. That's assuming you're not prone to any other kind of mental problem or disadvantage to further complicate your life and how you process things. People who have been through any kind of trauma, ongoing or temporary, can lash out. They can be the girlfriend who's overly possessive and simultaneously cold. They can be the bitchy girl who turned you down in a way that made you feel like shit in front of her friends. They can be your best friend who falls for bad boys. They can and they will hurt and they will not know why. Some get to a point of peace and find ways to come to terms with it. Some don't and neither will know which one they will be until much, much later.
But we're not at the point where we can talk about that openly. We can't change things for others until it changes for us. In my life, I have been threatened, stalked, pissed on, groped and assaulted. I am 28.
I am also fucking hilarious, this post not withstanding. That's what I want you to know about me. I could give a fuck if you know the rest.
I can be mean, vindictive, duplicitous, and petty and also very sweet (some have said), loyal, insightful, and supportive. I'm all these things because I'm a person. My story has nothing to do with every time someone was shitty to me and everything to do with where I'm going.
The reason why the Me Too thing matters is because we're people.
I know more than a few people who were turned off to the very word "feminism" because some humans would wield it as, "sit down, let me tell you why you suck."
I for sure was one of those people who hated it, but I've grown more accepting of the word, even if it's near impossible to separate it from how it's been considered.
We live in a country where we are as women, we may become best known for the worst thing that's ever happened to us, that the only outlets interested in us are interested in our worst memories and that is a bleak reality.
I don't want to be a feminist, but I don't think that's a role that most woman are aspiring to. It's a role that has emerged out of necessity. We don't want to be feminists, we want to eat yogurt and buy tiny cactuses. We want to write, go to work, and be known for our achievements, but we can't.
We have to be feminists because if we weren't, we would be subjugates.
A chunk of our time has to go to making sure that we don't lose access to medical care, or avoiding assault, and that chunk happens on top of going to work, chasing our dreams, and being people like everyone else.
You are not impervious to the influences of the culture or environment you live in, but you are able to hone your perspective and your reactions to it. I want to do more. I don't have it in me to keep contributing to a conversation about permissive abuse in our culture, but I know that conversation will keep happening so long as assault keeps happening.
That's why we get so pissy when people roll their eyes at the word feminism. The cruel irony of it is WE sort of don't want it either. the term exists because there is an imbalance we want to correct. All civil rights activists would have preferred to just have civil rights. All feminists would prefer to be able to control their body and live their lives.
Let us talk about something else. If there's a chance you can we can be thought of as equals, as writers, comedians, doctors, whatever, gender regardless, that would be rad, and our stories would change.
Dear me in the Past,
I'm not really sure why I'm writing you since there's no way that you'll be able to see it. You wrote me, though. Or some version of me. I'm not really sure how that kind of alternate timeline universe shit works, or how long the splits are. If it's some of that " infinite now, lingering in the moment between moments" shit, there's a possibility there's some lifetime in some dimension where you actually do get a hold of this.
You wrote to me just before my 27th birthday, which for all intents and purposes was a week away from your demise. Seems fitting I let you know how that year turned out. I doubt you saw it coming. You were really hung over when you wrote to me. You don't really drink or do drugs any more. It's mostly a money thing, but you're also not that stable and you've taken a lot of steps in recent months not to slip into bad habits. If I'm not careful I start pushing. I've thought about suicide. It's complicated, but I'm working on it.
You told me that you played by the rule of doing whatever you didn't know the outcome to. We did that a lot this year. That's how we met Sweetboy, that's what took us on the road, starting shows and why we live in North Carolina now. Arguably, It also made you broke, and more than a little lost.
You told me you were interested in being who you should be, and the good news is, you're getting a lot better at that. You're not as shy about admitting that you like things. You like dinosaurs a lot more than most people in your age range. I don't know if I know who we should be, Past Self, but I'm getting better at being consistent in who I am, and I'm pretty sure that's kind of the same.
I haven't heard from kokadrille in months. I don't think he lives here any more, which is strange. I always identified him as something else, something that wasn't me that lived in my head, but it never occurred to me that he could leave. I don't remember the last time I talked to him. I know I was angry. I went looking for him and in our tangle he laughed at me. I accused him of doing what he always did. If he could smile, I'm sure he would have.
"Hate to break it to you kid," he said to me, "but this hatred is all your fault."
That was it. I had to take responsibility for my emotions and he vanished after that. I don't even remember why that happened. It's been pretty quiet in my head since he's been gone. There's pros and cons. In a weird way I miss him. Maybe this is one of those processes you were talking about.
You were feeling alienated from your body, which is hilarious to me after what I've been through in the past month. You have no idea. As for relationships and closeness, you don't have that figured out. You're very into the idea of self reliance. I haven't really made any friends since I moved. Part of me wonders if I am too tired, if this was my death knell for my dreams; there's a point where the adventure becomes less exciting and more of a chore. That distaste you had for permanence wasn't inaccurate, by the way, but there is a lot to be said for growth, for roots. You're going to be fascinated by Catalpa trees soon and that will help you sort that out, but you don't have it yet. Maybe 28 or 29 will.
You don't know that Jordan Weileba died, for me it will be one ago from Friday, I think. You weren't particularly close to her but you take it pretty hard, you just don't know what to do about it. You'll write a blog about it that people will like and you'll hate yourself for it because you won't like the attention it gets you. You feel like a vulture of tragedy, feeding off of other people's grief. It passes. Remember her though. I think it's important to remember people fondly.
You think about your ex less. You still think about him, though and it confuses you a little. You do a lot of compare and contrast between that relationship and this one, but I've learned that you can't really do that. They're different people. You see entirely different things in them. You hope that your ex is happy, the idea of him finding someone else doesn't hurt any more and you hope that the dog is doing well. That's about it. Seeing him again would be too hard at this point. I don't know if this is worth mentioning but for where you were at in your life, I guess it does.
Let's see, what did you do this year? You start a bunch of pop up shows on the road. They go okay but I don't think you know what you really want from them. You meet Sweetboy. He changes your mind about a lot of things without particularly trying. He likes to help people in a way you don't fully understand. You learn to appreciate weird things about him though, like the fights. You like fighting because it teaches you limits. He fights you so you know when to stop pushing. He won't let you devour him. He's also very curious and likes to go on little adventures. That comes in really handy when you get depressed. He got you a big ass T-Rex balloon for your birthday and it's pretty great.
For the moment, your life is pretty quiet. You've had so much starting over to do and it's hard. Meeting people is hard. Trusting them is harder. You don't know how to reach out to the people you used to see all the time in Denver. You're still confused and frustrated by your time there. You really hate some people, you realize, to surprising degrees. Most of them you miss though.
I don't really know what to tell you, past self, because you'll never see this. I'm pretty sure you didn't see any of this coming. You've grown a lot (I think) but being this way is a little scary. You don't have monsters to protect you or take the blame for your shitty behavior. You've given up the lies you used as crutches. You're very vulnerable and it's pretty scary, and you're sober so you feel fucking everything. I don't know where it goes from here. 28 will have to let us know.
I'll be honest with you, I don't really know what I want with my life right now. August left me pretty shook up. It took a lot of my drive. I don't feel complacent, just lost, but I also feel more patient. I just have to stay aware. I feel very vulnerable right now and very, very shy. I've never been confident and honest at the same time before. This is all pretty new.
I hope you finally got some sleep, 26. I hope you did feel loved. I think you did, even in your loneliness I think you sensed it.
You in the Present, Future, or whenever the fuck this would be considered.
Before August 9th, I don't think I had ever really considered that I was a fuck up.
That's when what I thought was the stomach flu outlasted the window where I was supposed to get my period. My cycle is already all over the place and I'd thought with traveling, moving and trying to get situated I was just too stressed to get it; before that day I wasn't really concerned.
I got the test without expecting it to come back positive. Irregular periods are pretty common for someone as consistently stressed out as me. Fortune teller, taste my pee and tell me what's inside. It took less than a minute for the positive symbol to glare up at me, a blind snake's milky grey pupil.
I don't know what hit me first. Disbelief, that little laugh you get when you're in shock. Anger, sadness, confusion, who knows. My thoughts and feelings were all charging forward like animals stampeding through a burning doorway.
Leading the charge was a snarling sense of failure. Every decision in my life became a thumbs down. Remember how I quit school? Remember how I left Denver? Remember how I cheated in my last relationship? Oh, wasn't I great at rationalizing those things, using time and prose to make them okay, to make me human if not flawed, but here was the proof. I was a certified fuck up.
I knew I wouldn't keep it from the second I knew it was there. I made my first appointment with planned parenthood for the next day, but I wouldn't be able to go in for a procedure until the 26th. I had no choice but to wait.
And for a little while, everything in my life faded to black.
When I was little, I wondered what it felt like to be pregnant. Could you actually feel a little creature inside of you, was it distinct the way a bug would feel if it had crawled down your throat? For the past couple weeks, the answer was... not exactly. I didn't feel a specific presence inside of me, but it felt a lot like I was in the first act of some body horror movie. Everything I knew about myself felt wrong. I couldn't stand up for more than a few minutes without feeling like crumpling. Vomiting, weakness, relentless despair. I couldn't eat anything without it making me nauseous. Nausea made me nauseous. I could taste my own saliva and it would make me vomit.
The most alarming part was the curtain, the thick, foggy curtain that came down over my sense of self. I felt so lost. The longer I went, the more my body pushed the idea that having this thing grow inside of me was good, but it didn't feel like MY belief. It enveloped my dreams, my ambition, anything that made me feel normal and like myself. It wasn't that I felt like I should carry it to term, just that my body had changed allegiances. It didn't really care about me any more. It had an embryo, and that's all that mattered. My consciousness could float around in a dark tin can somewhere for all my body was concerned.
I felt absent and easily led. I couldn't answer either/or questions. I didn't want anything. I didn't feel like I mattered any more. I wanted to kill myself, but I didn't have the strength. I spent a lot of time staring at the wall in my apartment, unable to string together a thought.
One of the notes I kept repeating in my journals was the definition of the word viable. Abortion is legal up until the point of viability. I thought about wanting to be a comedian, how that's only worth doing while it's viable. Eventually, that will pass. I never knew what to do with the thought, but I wondered if any decision in my life could be considered viable.
As if to reiterate how much my body/the Something had ganged up on me, I would have to use the money I'd been saving to go to a comedy festival in October to cover the cost of the procedure. Another reminder that I wasn't getting out of this without losing part of myself.
I had lost, I was lost. I couldn't handle being touched, couldn't handle talking most of the time. I just wanted to starve to death in this swirl of hormones that left me unable to remember why I had ever liked to do anything, ever. I felt so lost and isolated and I couldn't bring myself to tell anyone. I wrote very little, because I couldn't keep the thoughts together. I've looked back over what I had written, and every two or three sentences is just the repeated phrase, "I hate this. I wish I could die."
Eventually I told a friend of mine, just to tell someone, but even after mentioning it I couldn't bring myself to talk about it much. I didn't know what else to say. There was no reflection, no sense of self awareness about my situation. Just that mantra. I hate this. I wish I could die. I watched the news and wondered if If was being too pitiful. What good was I if a little thing like pregnancy could stop me from being a functioning member of society? There was already so much tumult in the world. What was the point of me being here if my problems eclipsed (no pun intended) those that were going on in the country, some only a few hours drive away?
I hate this. I wish I could die.
I hated the thing that was inside of me, and I never knew what to call it. It was just Something. I wanted to use some name for it that made it seem like it didn't belong inside me, because sure as fuck it doesn't belong in my life. No matter what semantics I tried, I just couldn't come up with a word. I knew what it was and it made me hate myself. If there had ever been a sliver in my mind that had toyed with the idea of wanting children, it was gone as I daydreamed that the something inside me would collapse and die.
Even with my appointment only a week out, my mind wandered to the little poisons. Pennyroyal, Black Cohosh, Dong Quai, Fucking Vitamin c. Women have been using emmenagogues long before clinics existed. I looked into it. Nothing came of it though. It was me and the wall.
If this seems incredibly over dramatic and maudlin, I guess it is. I've fished out some of the things I wrote while I was still pregnant that were coherent and filled them out into this. That's where I was, that's all the identity I had. I haven't written a joke, I couldn't make it outside let alone to an open mic. I shut down completely and waited until I finally made it to Planned Parenthood.
I don't really know what experience I had thought I was going to have there. Some friends back home work for PP. I expected protestors, maybe. There were smiling volunteers in pink vests who offered to walk me in, and then it was a series of filling out papers, giving consent over, and over, and some pretty mundane medical procedures, like taking my blood pressure and a simple blood test. I had an ultrasound to confirm and found out with some alarm that I was 9 weeks instead of the 7 I had thought I was. It made me feel cold to know, but it didn't change my mind. It made me think, that because I had to wait to get the appointment, that if I had been someone else, someone who couldn't get a ride, or waited longer to see if maybe her symptoms would pass, or just couldn't get to a clinic, how fast that first trimester would slip by. How difficult her life would get in such a narrow span of time.
I opted for surgical; I had originally planned to do medical, which is a system of taking pills, one at the office and one at home, but because I was further than I thought, I just wanted to get it over with. It hurt a little. Not much. A nurse stayed by me and encouraged me to breathe. She called me a badass. Maybe I'm just that repressed. Maybe that's how detached from my body I'd become. I barely bled. A morbid part of me wanted to see it after it was out of me, but due to the risk of seeming like a psychopath I didn't ask. I hadn't asked to see the ultrasound, seemed like an odd time to get interested in the thing. The procedure itself lasted about 5 minutes and I made an appointment to get an IUD so I'll hopefully never go through this again.
That all happened yesterday and I feel okay, if not plain fine, today. I thought I might take longer to recover, given how all swallowing that sense of depression was. I don't feel regret. A renewed sense of passion about protecting clinics, maybe. the curtain around my sense of self is gone, but I do feel a bit lost. I don't really know where to begin. I just got here, and I had meant to start something, but I stumbled and sat down and now I don't totally know how to get back up. It keeps striking me how typical I am. This experience, in some form or another, happens to so many women. I don't really know how to talk about it other than this. I'm just aware of that. Whatever that means.
When the curtain that I'd been surrounded by was lifted, it did take something inside me with it. Not the something (I never figured out what to call it). There was a part of sense of myself, of something I could never know, that was forbidden for me to know, that was disrupted. I am so aware of what I'm refusing to take part in. Something about it feels sinister. I hope that passes. For the most part, I feel okay. I feel like my body and I are still at odds with one another, that it's taking awhile for my conscious spirit or whatever you'd like to call it to have autonomy over the limbs and tissue it used to control easily. It seems so easy for little devils to lurk in right now.
If there's something that I have taken away from this, and that is a BIG if, is that I feel very profoundly connected to the idea of experiencing the ineffable. No matter how descriptive I am about what I just went through, the only other people that will understand is women who went through it as well. No matter how patient and supportive Sweetboy was and how he tried to understand, he couldn't come close to fathoming. The kind of displacement of self that came with this experience was completely different from anything that's happened to me through any other trauma, drug experience or depression. It was entirely unique. I know something that some other people can't. No matter how erudite or full of insight we may think we are about things we're haven't been, race, gender, social background, religious upbringing, whatever, we can't really know. "I know how you feel" can seem cruel if you're not careful when you say it. There's a quality to certain things that isn't translatable even if you've wrapped yourself around similar shapes. What you do with that knowledge, I don't know. Become patient.
This is only the next day, and already, or at least, I've managed to write this. I've always known that's something that's sacred to me, and that doesn't feel like it's changed. I'm grateful that I had the option and ability to get rid of the something, and that I still have the option to keep looking for what feels important.
3, 2, 1, Boom.
My first day here, I went exploring the woods and a spider bit me on the nose. It left an impressive little red mark, crowning me as a little Rudolph for my first week. I touched base with a venue that I want to start a local showcase at but it's still up in the air. I caught a stomach flu this weekend that rendered me extremely ill and left me stuck in the house on the days most of the mics are clustered onto here.
Ladies and gentlemen, I have landed, but I think I'm still a little motion sick. Eight days isn't really a long enough of time to tell how well I'm doing. I just got here, I haven't been particularly social, but that's never been my strong point. I've gone to two mics so far; the first one went well on stage but I didn't really talk to anyone, the second one I was sick and left early for. So it goes, I guess.
Anxiety has a tendency to clutter my thoughts like goblins in an attic. The first one settles in there, disguised as a set of helping hands.
"You keep doing what you're doing," the knobby jointed, long eared goblin whispers, "I'll be up here, minding your progress. I'll let you know about what you need to focus on, keep track of how well you're doing so you don't get lazy."
Like a potentially great roommate, the goblin of anxiety moves in. He keeps me motivated to keep applying for work. He suggests casting a wide net, look for all sorts of opportunities. How exciting! He gives me a calendar of everything I need to be doing. Because it's such a big task to take care of, he invites a few other goblins he knows to delegate.
Goblins like Worry, and Doubt. God knows how many others that have started crawling around in the attic between my ears. All of a sudden they're opening boxes with my memories in them.
"Hey, did you ever take care of these fears of commitment you have?" One asks casually, staring at me with his dead little eyes, "I'm only asking because you moved across the country with Sweetboy and he'll probably want to know if you haven't."
"Have you made any plans for if this doesn't work out? You don't want to rely on going back to food service forever. If comedy is a dead end, what will you do at 40?" Another one asks as he spell checks my new resume. "Also, who is going to want to hire you if you're not going to be committed to their business? Seems counter intuitive, right?"
"You didn't move here for that kind of work though," another deceptive Goblin that I have come to listen to all too often asserts, "If you have no plans for your future, you won't be tied down, and that's what's important right? You need to be flexible so you can set up comedy. You've slept in cars before. It's not so bad."
I should interject here to say that it's not so bad, but it's murder on your joints, a fact my body has been quick to remind me of every time we camped this summer. But with all their voices, all my doubts and worries have become pretty loud. Maybe this was a mistake. Maybe I should try and go home.
Then I wonder what the point of that would be, and a whole new generation of goblins is born. Does that mean I'm defeated? If I can't do so much as move, I really have no place in comedy, do I? I'm really not relatable enough, and I know I'm a tough sell to the average person already. What if the purpose of my life really is just to be a warning sign for someone else? What kind of retirement package comes with that, live under a bridge, working for answers?
Usually when I'm faced with really big life issues that I don't know how to solve I convert them into fairy tales. In this case, anxiety has taken up the face of goblins. Anxiety's different than fear in my world; fear is often useful. Anxiety is a greedy little horde that wants to move into your brain and take all your stuff.
So far as I know in the lore of goblins, there's not a whole bunch of ways to deal with them aside from reading from the bible, waiting them out or tricking them. For anxiety, a lot of conventional wisdom it seems to be breathing ,exercise, relaxation exercises. There's a lot written about CBT for it, though it's tough to implement when you're already questioning your thoughts. Nothing screams, "I'm doubting myself too much," like doubting your anxiety.
At some point, there's going to be some modicum of stability, and after that, I'll probably get bored. Who knows. There's still a lot of August to left unfold. I guess writing this is just catharsis. I didn't really have a reason to post anything, I just figured I'd sit down and write out something while I kill some time before yet another interview.
Like most things, the expectations I had for moving aren't really meshing with reality. I'm very nervous here. I didn't realize how much the routine, seeing the same people every day at mics made it easier for me to meet people and talk to them.
I had no idea that I'd be fighting myself this hard simply by moving. My general level of trust is extremely limited, but I've learned a lot of coping skills. I don't think a lot of people in Denver knew how hard it was for me to do certain things. Right now, it feels impossible. Then again, maybe that's the goblins talking.
Maybe I'm as strong as that person I thought myself to be. Hopefully I'll figure that shit out in less time than it takes this red mark on my nose to fade.
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It's been 43 days since I left home. I still call it home, I guess because I haven't landed anywhere yet. I've been living in and out of a car with sweetboy. It's so strange, because that city felt so little like home when I finally decided to leave.
When I left Denver, it felt like I was blindfolded. It made me think of that Halloween game, where I would reach into a bowl of peeled grapes, one of my shittier friends whispering over my shoulders, "That's eyeballs, dude. You know that, right?"
Then, I curled my fingers around the gelatinous orbs that were slipping through my fingers. I imagined what those eyes had seen before they'd been cut from their sockets, about the calamari-and-psychopathy aftertaste of what I might be consuming. Doubts swirled in my mind, should I be doing this? If I didn't, I faced the peculiar possibility of starving, because this is a universe where you only eat on Halloween. What was I supposed to do?
43 days ago, I shoved those eyeballs into my mouth with the literal blind faith of a desperate person and let my teeth squish down on unverified matter. A surge of relief kissed my anxious nerves one by one as the sweetness of fruit greeted my tongue, instead of the horrifying opposite. I had been right all along.
If that's a clunky metaphor, what I mean is, I started a project called Here Today, and I'm finally figuring out what that project is. For my own sanity, I have to state that this isn't a promotional blog about it, it's just what I'm working on and what I believe in, in terms of the grand scheme of things, so it may come off sounding a little proud and self aggrandizing. This also might be a squirrelier than usual piece of writing because it's covering a lot, conceptually. Maybe I'll have time to break it down more in Chicago.
I've been writing about money and influence and how I sort of hate them, but I can't help but thinking about them constantly. I haven't gotten to the part about capitalism yet, but suffice it to say, I'm a jaded about that, too. What I've been trying to figure out is what the best way to maintain a balance between those two things is. A system that loves everyone seems unsustainable, but a system that appreciates only the individual seems gravely prone towards corruption. How do you survive, how do you succeed, without taking advantage of others, or having them take advantage of you?
I believe you have to sacrifice, to some degree, to make things work. That's a scary thought because I will fight, and fail, and fight harder and fail harder when faced with certain sacrifices. No one can tell me how to be. It took me fucking long enough to figure that out already. My existence is on my terms, which so far means I don't make much money. I get by. I started doing comedy and realized that everything had to halt in order to let me do comedy.
As everything halted, my ability to survive became more difficult. If I wanted to do comedy for a living, I had to make it a job. That became a puzzle; how do I get paid to do this? I learned about starting showcases, learned about clubs, learned about corporate gigs and casinos. Everyone's version of making money is a little different. I can't say for certain that any one of them is the real way to "make it." It really depends on what you're looking for.
I know that what I'm looking for involves remaining true to myself, and it sounds tired and arrogant, but I can't let it go. I can't pander to people. I don't connect that way, moreover I'd lose what makes me different. I don't think there would be a point in my contribution, in my jokes, if they were about the same shit as everyone else's. This led me to a very jarring and bitter view about comedy clubs.
I don't give a flying fuck about comedy clubs. I think they're a vestige of a less evolved time, they're interested in churning out little joke machines that can do what works in their rooms, makes them look good at corporate events. They're safe. The risks you take there are still within the same parameters. They don't want anyone who wants things to change. They don't want me, I don't want them.
I have to admit that this might be a puzzle I'm rejecting. I could make the rationalization that working a club is another riddle, just something I have to solve in order to get what I want. For whatever reason, I don't believe that's the real puzzle.
What I really want to figure out is how to make entertainment an intrinsic part of community again. That's what I got from going to open mics. That's what I got from running my showcases, from performing. I met people, I talked to them, looked them in the eye. Doing comedy gave me the ability to talk to people, learn from them, and yeah, even care about them.
Comedy is an interesting thing. You can say hostile, horrible, or outright crazy things to people, and they will listen. Even if they don't like or don't agree with you, they're in a position to listen. You're not challenging their beliefs, you're demonstrating yours. They can watch, first hand, what it's like to be a particular kind of person. You can see into a person's imagination, their soul, their consciousness. When it works out, you connect with them in a way some call holy. Being able to reach out to people like that, I think, is a far more powerful tool in creating a better world than any politician or religious leader has offered.
Comedians aren't there to convert you, they're there to demonstrate themselves. Your conversion comes from recognizing them as humans. That's why such broken people crawl to these stages. We need to be recognized, validated, as humans, and by doing so, we build something bigger than ourselves.
Yeah, they're dick jokes, bad relationships, bits about depression, or "what's-the-deal-with..." There's plenty of things you may not find funny, but they're human. You can observe the opposition, the super-liberal or super-conservative, as a human existing without the need to confront them, and through that you know that that kind of coexistence is possible.
My hope is to help seed that ideal, that comedy shows teach coexistence, harmonious coexistence even with people that you might not like. Not only that, it's a reason for people to come together. That sounds like an airy, hippie idea, and maybe it is.
Putting live entertainment into venues that shut down once the acts leave, that don't operate locally segregates the economy of it. It doesn't give a reason for people to come back, and coming back lets a business flourish, ideally in a way that helps them build out the towns they're located in.
If comedians want to make a living, we need to find ways for the venues that host us to make money. If they're going to, we need to consider how their patrons stay employed. No big deal, right? If we look at live entertainment as something integral, as a way to focus ourselves economically on one another, particularly within our own zip codes, we can strengthen our communities. We can fix infrastructure, we can build businesses. As we try to marry those things, instead of sucking in money to keep the lights on, hopefully we can funnel it back out into making low income housing, fixing poor water quality, helping the mentally ill... do comedy.
Everyone I've met has a piece of this, but I don't know what it is yet. My hope is that when I'm done, I can topple the gates that need gatekeepers, that we can make an economy that includes us, needs us. I've only just started figuring this out as my place in things, and it's just the beginning.
I have traveled so much and I am usually exhausted. I only just started figuring out what it is that I'm trying to do through the very humble avenue of little shows. My hope is that as I keep feeling my way forward, I'll be able to find out how everyone fits together. I can solve the equation of money and influence.
If all that works out, I guess I'll have made it.
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I'm a Denver Comedian, occasional cartoonist and person of interest to someone, probably. These articles are really too long.